How to Overcome it If You Feel Like A Failure

No matter who you are, what you do for a living, how many graduate degrees you’ve earned, or how often you successfully make the right decisions, there will be times when you feel like a failure.

Society tends to celebrate the successes rather than highlighting the epic journeys towards success that are filled with trials, tribulations, upsets, setbacks, and failures. It’s not as glamorous to talk about those things.

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7 Reasons Why People Feel Like a Failure

  • Lack Of Persistence – More people fail – not because they lack knowledge or talent,but because they just quit. It’s important to remember two words: persistence and resistance. Persist in what must be done and resist what ought not to be done.
  • Lack Of Confidence – People who lack conviction take the middle of the road. But what happens in the middle of the road? You get run over. People without conviction go along to get along because they lack courage and confidence.
  • Rationalization – Rationalizing and have a book full of excuses will not help you succeed.
  • Dismissal Of Past Mistakes – Some people live and learn, and some only live. Failure is a teacher if we have the right attitude. Wise people learn from their mistakes, the experience is the name they give to slipups.
  • Poor Self Esteem – Poor self-esteem is a lack of self-respect and self-worth. People with low self-confidence are constantly trying to find themselves rather than creating the person they want to be.
  • Lack Of Discipline – Anyone who has accomplished anything worthwhile has never done it without discipline. Discipline takes self-control, sacrifice and avoiding distractions and temptations. It means staying focused.
  • Poor Attitude – A fatalistic attitude prevents people from accepting responsibility for their position in life. They attribute success and failure to luck. They resign themselves to their fate, regardless of their efforts, that whatever must happen will happen anyway.

“I have not failed. I have just found 10,000 ways that won’t work” – Thomas A. Edison

5 Lessons We Can Learn From Failing Forward

  • Experience -The first important lesson gained from failure is the experience. When we go through something and can walk away with firsthand experience, it helps us to develop a deeper understanding of life.
  • Resilience – Failing in life helps to build resilience. The more we fail, the more resilient we become. Resilience helps to breed success by setting the game up to win. Gone are the lofty expectations that thing will happen overnight, and in comes the expectations that true success will take an enormous amount of work and effort.
  • Knowledge – Failure brings with it important firsthand knowledge. That knowledge can be harnessed in the future to overcome that very failure that inflicted so much pain in the first place. Nothing can replace the knowledge gained from failure.
  • Growth – When we fail, we grow and mature as human beings. We reach deeper meanings and understandings about our lives and why we’re doing the things that we’re doing.
  • Value – One of the biggest lessons that we can learn from life’s failures is the necessity to create and spread an exceedingly high amount of value. In fact, the value lies at the heart of success and a lack of value is a fundamental pillar of failure. When you learn to create immense value and do so consistently, you will eventually succeed.

The Takeaway

As any successful person will honestly admit that failure happens, and we’ve all had our fair share of it. But from each failure, we learn two equally valuable lessons. One, that there was at least one reason we failed; and two, that we can rebound from that failure.

To recover from failure, revisit your goals and redefine them. Spend the time necessary to analyze and adjust where necessary. When we know the reasons why we failed and the learned our lessons from them, then change for the better will occur.

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